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Weddings / Civil Partnerships


“Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place.”  Zora Neale Hurston


Your wedding ceremony should be your opportunity to publicly declare your hopes and aspirations for the future together. I can help you design a service that will be personal to you and can act as the celebrant on the day.

In England and Wales only registrars employed by the local authority and designated religious officiants can complete the legal documents. However, you can have the celebrant and the service of your choice if you visit the Register Office prior to the wedding itself and complete the 5 minute legal service. You can then have complete choice over how and when you want to celebrate your wedding.

A typical marriage ceremony could include all or some of the following aspects:

· The ‘giving in marriage’ - this is traditionally done by the father of the bride but you could chose to ask both sets of parents or even your guests for their blessing of your marriage

· Readings—hundreds to choose from

· Your relationship—stories about you, where you met, where you went on your first date, holidays, etc.

· The future—words about what the future means for you

· Wedding vows—you can use the traditional vows or have some that you have come up with yourselves.  I can help you with this if you like.

· Family vows

· Music

· An exchange of rings

· Symbolic actions such as hand-fasting, lighting a candle together etc

You can have the service you want, when you want and in the place you want. Once the legal requirements have been satisfied there are no restrictions to what you can do.

 

Sample Readings

A quick search on the internet will show you that there are hundreds to choose from. On this page you will find some examples of the sort of readings that can be used. The main thing is that you should choose something that is meaningful to you.


Today I Marry My Friend - Author unknown

Do not walk in front of me

I may not be able to follow

Do not walk behind me

I may not be able to lead

Just walk beside me

And be my friend


Today I marry my friend

The one I laugh and cry with

The one I have learned from

and shared with

The one I have chosen to support,

encourage and give myself to

Through all the days given to us to share.

Today I marry the one I love.


1 Corinthians 13: 1-8, 13

I might have all the eloquence of men or of angels, but if I speak without love

I am simply a gong booming or a cymbal clashing.

I could have the gift of prophecy and understand all the mysteries there are;

I could no everything and have faith in all its fullness, enough to move mountains,

But if I have no love I am nothing at all.

I could give away all I possess, even my own body

But if I am without love then I gain nothing

Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous nor boastful not conceited;

It is never rude nor selfish, it does not take offence and is not resentful.

Love takes no pleasure in other people's faults but delights in the truth;

it is always ready to forgive, to trust, to hope and to endure whatever comes.

Love does not come to an end,

In fact, there are three things that last – faith, hope and love;

and the greatest of these is love.


The Art of Marriage – Wilfred A Peterson

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.

A good marriage must be created. In marriage the little things are the big things.

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted;

the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.

It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner;

it is being the right partner.


EXCERPT FROM THE VELVETEEN RABBIT - By Margery Williams

"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but Really loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get all loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."


Sample Poems

A quick search on the internet will show you that there are hundreds to choose from. On this page you will find some examples of the sort of poems that can be used. The main thing is that you should choose something that is meaningful to you.

At My Daughter's Side – Linda Jo

Tomorrow was a lifetime away, now suddenly it's here.

How did it happen so quickly? This wedding drawing near.

How can I act so happy? How can I act so gay?

When in such a very short time, I'll give my daughter away.

I wish I could grasp a moment, and make the clock stand still

So I could let my heart catch up, but I know it never will.

All the worries of being a parent, all the battles won,

No one ever warned me about the day the job is done.

Yet, there is another side, where my heart is not as sad.

When I look in my daughter's eyes, I can't help but be joyful and glad.

This day she has dreamt about, for just about all her life.

She's going to be such a beautiful bride and a loving, caring wife.

I'll stand with the congregation as my daughter walks down the aisle

And even though there are tears in my eyes, my face wll bear a smile.

For I know that I was very blessed when God lent this child to me.

To love and care for and nurture, so she would grow up to be

This lovely, bright young woman, who tomorrow will be a bride

And as always I'll be there, with love at my daughter's side.


Yes, I'll Marry You – Pam Ayres

Yes, I'll marry you, my dear,

And here's the reason why;

So I can push you out of bed

When the baby starts to cry,

And if we hear a knocking

And it's creepy and it's late,

I hand you the torch you see,

And you investigate.

Yes, I'll marry you, my dear,

You may not apprehend it,

But when the tumble-drier goes

It's you that has to mend it,

You have to face the neighbour

Should our labrador attack him,

And if a drunkard fondles me

It's you that has to whack him.

Yes, I'll marry you,

You're virile and you're lean,

My house is like a pigsty

You can help to keep it clean.

That sexy little dinner

Which you served by candlelight,

As I do chipolatas,

You can cook it every night!

It's you who has to work the drill

and put up curtain track,

And when I've got PMT it's you who gets the flak,

I do see great advantages,

But none of them for you,

And so before you see the light,

I do, I do, I do!


From This Day Forward – author unkown

From this day forward,

You shall not walk alone.

My heart will be your shelter,

And my arms will be your home.


The Colour of My Love – David Foster and Arthur Janoy

I'll paint a sun to warm your heart

Knowing that we'll never part.

I'll draw the years all passing by

So much to learn, so much to try.

I'll paint my mood in a shadow blue,

Paint my soul to be with you.

I'll sketch your lips in shaded tones,

Draw your mouth to my own.

I'll trace a hand to wipe your tears

And trace a look to calm your fears.

A silhouette of dark and light

To hold each other oh so tight.

I'll paint the stars in the evening sky,

Draw the light into your eyes,

A touch of love, a touch of grace,

To softly fall on your moonlit face.

And with this ring our lives will start,

Let nothing keep our love apart.

I'll take your hand to hold in mine,

And be together through all time.