With my wealth of pastoral experience I can offer invaluable advice in the most difficult of circumstances.
It is my policy not to charge for the funerals of babies and I also make a small donation from every service I do to charity.
Funerals for Babies and Children
If anyone is a lover of gardens they will know that even within the most beautiful of gardens, tended by the most skilled botanist, there is occasionally a rose that buds but never fully opens. This rose is like all others in its charm and smile but something prevents it from blooming to full maturity. The death of a baby or child is like one such beautiful rose that budded but never fully opened in all its splendour.
Ceremonies for those who have taken their own life
Love can be revealed and displayed in many ways. It has been said that when someone takes their own life it is, strangely, just another way of showing love. Sadly, this does not remove the pain for those left behind. Suicide is often seen as something that happens to other families, not ours. It can trigger huge “What ifs” and “If onlys” among those who are left to cope. This still leads us to ask “Why?”. The truth is often that those who take their own lives are not out to hurt you; their intention is to find peace for themselves. Of course, their way of finding that peace can leave us in pain.
Death of teenagers and young adults
The death of any young person can be truly devastating; lives are changed forever. We do not expect to outlive our children and all bereaved parents suffer the same raw emotions of sorrow and loss to a level words cannot describe. Expectations, hopes and dreams are dashed, their futures are ended and our world is changed forever. It is often said that parents feel cheated or that they have failed to protect their child. Questions arise as to whether he/she died alone or in pain or whether anything else could have been done. It can all be complicated through feelings of guilt and regret. Many parents even say that they would willingly have died instead of their child, asking why they have had such a longand full life and their child did not. People who work in this area say that the family left behind can discover extra dimensions of their child’s life through the sharing of memories with their child’s friends who are still alive and maybe accept that, in time, the pain can become manageable and be comforted by the truth that like love, memories never die.
“To live in the hearts of those we leave behind is not to die.” Thomas Campbell